The iconic “Say Anything”, 1989, shows us that what the male lead wants is always better for the female lead than she wants. In this story, she has broken up with him, but as written, he is justified and right to ignore her; even, stalk her.
Here men learn that that their blindered single mindedness pays off, and gals don’t be foolish, change your minds cause he knows what’s best for you. That is the power dynamic we all absorbed.
In my version of “Say Anything” I used these vivid extreme colors to try and highlight that what is presented as appealing and romantic is FAKE. It’s so easy to be swept away by the color and polish of these movies without stopping to notice their bad modeling and unhealthy definitions of romance.